Are you ready to receive God’s best? He doesn’t send the supreme to a disorderly house. With that said, shift your focus. Instead of concentrating on finding a soul mate, concentrate on getting yourself prepared. By the way, as previously stated in another article, a woman doesn’t find the man; he finds her. This article discusses seven things to consider as you work to get yourself in order.
1. Know thyself.
Conduct a self-examination. Possessing a keen awareness of yourself is the first rule in any endeavor. With that said, what do you value? What do you respect in others? Where do you draw the line? What’s your communication style? What strengths do you bring to a relationship.
2. Love yourself.
Next to knowing yourself is loving yourself. Otherwise, how can you expect someone else to love you? Love yourself with a man. Love yourself without a man. Most important, know that Jesus loves you.
3. Keep first things first.
What takes precedence now? Some things are more important than others. A friend, for example, made raising her son the primary focus. As a single mother, she did not parade every Tom, Dick, or Harry in front of him or disrupt their home by moving someone in. Now after he went away to college, she let her hair down. Today, he is a well-adjusted, respectful and responsible man. If you’re a single parent, what matters most?
Likewise, how’s your financial health? Focus on eliminating debt and improving your credit. Your mate doesn’t want to inherit a financial wreck.
Even if your family or finances are in tack, other things supersede finding a mate. Pause for a moment or two to assess your present state. Where are you in disarray?
4. Discover your purpose
In short, uncovering your purpose is a pressing matter. Whether you have a mate or not does not exempt you from fulfilling your call (vocation).
5. Pursue your dream(s).
After you uncover the mission, get moving. Your skills and talents are the missing pieces to someone’s puzzle. Moreover, the right place is where your blessings flow.
6. Unload the baggage.
Imagine travelling from place to place with your luggage. You add more items than you remove and before long it’s difficult to carry. Aside from slowing you down, it’s heavy and awkward.
Similarly, when you jump from relationship to relationship emotional baggage accumulates. Instead of taking time to regroup or allow the dust settle, you drag the junk in your trunk (anger, confusion, bitterness, etc.). Eventually, you unload it on the next person. Stop the madness!
7. No stinking thinking.
As women, we’ve been gifted with strong intuition. Yet, we proceed full steam ahead and ignore early warning signs; I’m guilty too. At length, stinking thinking creeps in. Our track records, consequently, hold us hostage with negative views of men, relationships, and marriage. I call it stinking thinking, and it sours everything.
Therefore, change your mindset. Trust God to not only position you for your soul mate but to exceed your expectations. He doesn’t make mistakes.