Relationships: What Can Happen To Someone When Their Partner Denies That They Are Cheating?

When someone is in relationship, they will have the opportunity to grow and to heal any wounds that they may have. This can mean that there will be moments that are deeply fulfilling and moments that are extremely painful pain.

What will play a big part here is how much pain one is carrying. If they have a lot of baggage, they could be used to experiencing more downs than ups in their relationship.

Unaware

However, even if one is carrying a lot of baggage, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they could believe that the other person is causing them to feel the way they do, believing that they are to blame.

If they have this outlook, it is not going to be possible for them to take responsibility for their own pain. The other person could put up with this, thereby causing them to be weighed down by issues that don’t belong to them.

The Defining Factor

What this will show is that they lack self-awareness, with this being the reason why they can’t own their own issues. The reason why the other person goes along with this could be because this is what feels comfortable.

Perhaps they grew up in an environment where their caregiver didn’t take responsibility either, causing them to have a false sense of responsibility and to lack boundaries. This then stops them from standing their ground.

A Battle

The energy that one person uses to blame the other could aid their own development, as opposed to being wasted in this manner. This is then going to be a relationship that will drain both of them.

Before long, one of them could decide that enough is enough and walk away, and this could be the person who doesn’t want to work through their issues. They could soon find someone else and the same thing could happen all over again.

One Problem

Conversely, one could be in a position where one issue is making it hard for them to relax around their partner, and this could cold be something that consumes their attention when they are apart. One may believe that their partner is cheating on them and this could cause them experience a lot of pain.

They could talk to their partner, or they could end up talking to their friends about what is going on for them. If they speak directly to their partner, it might allow them to allay their fears but if they speak to their fiends, it could make things worse.

Another Approach

Alternatively, one could take a step back and reflect on what is taking place internally and externally. This will give them the chance to see if there is anything to what they believe or if they are just overreacting.

During this time, they may find that something from their past has been triggered. Maybe they feel worthless and have a fear of being abandoned, which is why they have come to believe that their partner is straying.

The Past is Present

At the beginning of their life, they may have been neglected by their caregivers, and this would have caused them to believe that they were worthless. The years would then have passed, but they will still fear that they will be left.

Through being egocentric at this age, they would have believed that they were only left since they had no value. In reality, they were left due to the issues that their caregiver/s had; that’s all there is to it.

External Support

What they could then do is to find someone who can assist them, such as a therapist or a healer. Once they have worked though their pain, it will be easier for them to live in the present moment.

Yet, if they were to find that what is taking place within them is not having an effect on how they are perceiving reality, they could believe that it would be a good idea for them to speak to their partner. After talking about this with them, they could find that there is nothing for them to worry about.

Denial

At the same time, one could have clear evidence that something is going on and they could sense that something is not right, but their partner could deny it. If their partner is not willing to admit to what is taking place, they might wonder if the time has come to end the relationship.

On the other hand, they could go along with what their partner says and start to question themselves. As time goes by, they could disconnect from themselves and only pay attention to what comes out of their partner’s mouth.

Out of Touch

One will have allowed their partner to tell them what is or what isn’t taking place, and this will cause them to ignore their own feelings and instincts. Their partner is then going to have a lot of power over them.

Taking this into account, the sooner one gets back in touch with their inner world the better their life will be. The person they are with is not going to have their best interests at heart, so they will probably need to cut their ties with them.

Awareness

If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external assistance. This is something that can be provided by a therapist or healer, and the support of their friends and family may also be needed.

Prolific writer, author, and coach, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand seven hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

Postmodern Film Approach: CBC’s Othello

If I understand Othello correctly the viewer is supposed to be enveloped in a sense of suffocation, a feeling of being smothered, as Iago’s box closes around the others, capturing them. That doesn’t happen in this production at all, and one of the reasons it doesn’t is that the production is so beautiful. The sets, the costumes, the cinematography, all of it – it’s excellent, even breathtaking, to the point of distraction. (Compare the sense of asphyxiation in Trevor Nunn’s film with Ian McKellen and Willard White and the BBC film with Bob Hoskins and Anthony Hopkins – in those we feel really choked.)

I’m a firm believer that the “style over substance” type of aesthetic can go a long way, and justify a lot, but it usually can’t go all the way and justify everything. The true stars of this production are the costume designer Debra Hanson; the cinematographer Glen Keenan; the production designer Callum Maclachlan; and even the composer of the haunting theme, Philip J. Bennett. So – what of everything else?

I understand the necessity of time limitations in a television adaptation of Shakespeare, and I understand Orson Welles edited this work enormously also, but that isn’t justification. Chopping this play to two hours from its true three and a half is too much. It turns the play into Shakespeare for adolescents. Too many key speeches and scenes have to go. In particular the bawdy jesting between Iago and Desdemona as they leave the ship cannot be hacked off, as it gives too much insight into both of those critical characters. The cuts hurt.

Too: showing the corpses at the very start, and then flashing back, is a mistake. (It was a mistake when Welles did it as well; it will always be a mistake.) I can’t get behind this kind of re-writing of Shakespeare in any way, shape, or form. And this isn’t the only way Zaib Shaikh re-writes. He gives Roderigo the line “… this Muslim” (meaning Othello) at one point, which Shakespeare certainly didn’t write. The point is reinforced by having Othello exchange his necklace (a star and crescent) with Desdemona for hers (a cross) at the beginning, when they’re married. I don’t see anything wrong with the visual message of the necklaces, but again, re-writing the Bard, putting in words he didn’t write? A no no! Show, don’t tell.

The camera here is relatively bland. What about the acting? Christine Horne as Desdemona and Peter Donaldson as her father are sensational; I’ve not seen earnest, wholesome goodness just ooze out of Desdemona like this before. In the thankless role of Bianca Nazneen Contractor isn’t bad, and Ryan Hollyman looks like a great Roderigo. No one else is a Shakespearean heavyweight, to say the least. Compare Frank Finlay’s “Are you mad?” in the final scene to Matthew DeSlippe’s here and you’ll know most of what you need to know.

The Three WORST Pieces of Advice Given to Presenters (and How Best to Ignore Them)

Ever hear the one about picturing your audience naked to overcome your fear of presenting to them? How about the one about practicing in front of a mirror? Anyone who has ever tried either of those well-meaning tropes knows how futile they are. Deluding ourselves that we can calm fears by laughing at our audience, or that we can convince them of anything by faking authenticity, is worse than a waste of time. It prevents us from using our greatest power as presenters: our true selves. Try ignoring the “worst advice” and substituting powerful communication instead.

Worst Advice:

Memorize Your Presentation

Now this one sounds reasonable enough on the surface. After all, much of our fear about presenting is wrapped up in our fear of looking foolish in front of others. Some of that comes from our fear of drawing a blank when all eyes are on us. If we memorize our presentation, that won’t happen, right? Perhaps, but what will certainly happen is that we’ll be taken out of “the moment” as we put all of our energy and attention on recalling the least significant portion of our presentation: the literal words. Suddenly, we’re not focused on the immediate reaction we’re getting from the audience or on making sure we’re connecting with them. We’re focusing instead on making sure the words keep coming. That sets the bar too low: surviving the presentation until the end isn’t your goal. CONNECTING to your audience is.

Instead: Know Your Presentation

Focus on the essence of what you’re presenting: namely your key messages. This is what’s most important for your audience to understand. If the worst happens and all of your materials and notes disappeared, how would you summarize what you came to say? Put those bigger ideas up front and build your presentation around them. Your audience won’t likely remember all of the supporting details, but they should remember your key points. Worry less about repeating the exact words you intended and more about making sure you’re connecting. If you see heads nodding, react. If you see puzzled looks, don’t just plow through. Stop and make sure you’re not rushing ahead of your audience just to fill space. Slow yourself down and make sure you really see your audience and gauge their reactions. Remember, no one knows what you were supposed to say, so don’t let a pause or different phrasing than you’d planned throw you.

Use a Lot of Bullets

For some reason, lots of presenters think they can take a long, dry presentation and suddenly make it come alive if they can just add enough bullets to the screen. Ever sit through one of those presentations where the bullets don’t in any way indicate an abbreviated point? Heck, they may not even indicate a point! Here’s the thing: TEXT ON A SLIDE IS NOT A VISUAL AID. There is nothing about text that makes it more understandable, or illustrative, than the spoken word, by itself.

Instead: Put the Visual Back in Visual Aid

Are there actual visuals that would help illustrate your points? Can you bring in relevant charts, graphs, photos, illustrations to help your audience “see” your points? If you must use bullets, greatly reduce them and the words you use. Your audience didn’t come to read and they didn’t come to listen to YOU read to them. (Hint: if you use punctuation in your bulleted information, you’re using too many words.)

More is Better

Ever sit through a presentation that’s a product of many hands? More detail, more slides, with the presenter intoning something like… “..and here you can see again… ” or “this is just yet another example of… ” Yes, you want to prove your key points. Data does help you do that. However, information overload may quickly confuse your audience and actually mask your key points.

Why Art Collectors Are in Love With Floral Paintings These Days

Reproductions of floral paintings are selling like hot cakes in online stores dedicated to modern art for sale, sculpture home décor and more

With floral art and floral paintings becoming coveted products for art collectors globally, smart replications and reproductions of some of the most valued floral art forms are making their presence felt in art stores online. Art lovers have a fancy for floral art for two significant reasons, their beauty and meaning. Different flowers tend to have different kinds of symbolic messages attached to them; therefore some flowers tend to be more popular and wanted than others. Across history, artists had been inspired by the prettiest flowers and found them to be the perfect objects for their paintings.

Did you know that some of the earliest known paintings depicted flowers and plants? Here, we have assembled some floral paintings, sculpture home décor that are being purchased by art enthusiasts globally.

‘Roses and Sunflowers’ (1886):

A masterpiece by Vincent van Gogh, this 1886 creation is currently hosted at ‘Kunsthalle Mannheim’, a much famed museum showcasing modern and contemporary paintings. Like most paintings and art forms by Vincent van Gogh, this one was also created with oil upon canvas. An art store online selling floral painting reproductions would surely have this on its cards.

‘Bouquet’ (1599)

If you have already invested in the best modern art for sale online and would like to opt for something flowery for a change, then this Jan Brueghel the Elder painting is what you should go for without any further ado. Painted in 1599, the epic creation is one of the oldest floral paintings known to mankind. It portrays many beautiful flowers and serves to be a wonderful example of conventional floral art

‘Vase of Flowers’ (1480)

This coveted painting, like many others belonging to the same era, depicts religious symbolism to the hilt. These symbolic messages go back in times and may not have their desired relevance in the contemporary world; nevertheless, the painting in which they are presented is notching favors everywhere.

Still-Life of Flowers’ (1614)

This painting is unique in itself and showcases the talent of Ambrosius Bosschaert who created it in 1614. Depicting the still life lead by flowers in the best possible way, the detailing, realism and shading of the painting is beyond compare.

These and many other floral paintings are making it to the art collections of amateur and professional art enthusiasts in a big way. You may like to check out a few of such paintings for your personal or office space as well.

Does He Still Love Me And How To Get Him Back In My Life

It’s not too late to win your lovely ex-back! Do you want to find how to get your ex-husband truly back in your life? You can discover how to make your ex start CRAVING you again and begging to have you back in his arms.

Have you made some of these critical mistakes for getting back together?

Have you been emotional or demanding to win him back?

Have you called him or followed him around town?

Perhaps you’ve even begged him to come back to you or driven by his home repeatedly, constantly worrying over getting back together for good.

Did you know that most relationship breakups can be saved, and the reason why so many women end up heartbroken is because of what they do the first few weeks after the split.

You see what gets most women in trouble isn’t that they’re mean, selfish or demanding.

No, after a breakup most women try to coax their man back using methods that would be effective on another woman, but often prove severely disastrous on a man.

The Course in Miracles states, “Yet in this world your perfection is unwitnessed.”

The truth is you’re probably feeling a bit overwhelmed.

You need a plan to win your ex-back.

Yes, I mean a proven strategy that gives you step by step instructions on what to do, and if you still love him He needs your help not to make the biggest mistake of his life in losing you.

Don’t let that happen to you!

Here are a couple of warnings you need to be aware of:

– #1: If you DON’T want your ex-husband or boyfriend back – this isn’t for you.

– #2: You need to understand male psychology, I mean how men act and think.

If you DO want to know how to get you ex-husband or boyfriend back – you’re going to need to discover a couple of sneaky little secrets about MALE psychology, that will show you how to quickly REVERSE your break up situation and get him to start chasing you again!

Getting Him to Chase You again

In a previous session we discussed what do men want in a woman and how to enhance your love relationship.

Remember, this plan for how to win your ex-back is ONLY for those who feel a deep connection with their ex and want the opportunity to get a SECOND chance!

If you think he is someone special that you don’t want to lose then you’ll discover:

– Why what you do in the next few weeks is critical to reversing your breakup.

– The specific Step by Step Strategy to reverse the break up so he is the one CHASING you and BEGGING to want you back… all his idea of course.

– Why listening to your girlfriend’s advice can actually kill any chance of getting him back.

If you want a Proven Plan to win your ex-back, first think perhaps why he’s ignoring you completely, or maybe he told you he “just wants to be friends, and that sort of thing.”

In this situation, you CAN NOT afford to make the same mistakes that most women make when trying to find does he still love me.

You want him back… you want to start fresh, and give it another try without him shutting you out.

A lot of women have been through this system and this situation has helped them to not only win back the men they love… but to build new, happier, stronger relationships.

And you’re racking your brain about getting back together?

You might be trying to figure out WHY he suddenly turned so cold, and HOW to convince him to talk to you and to try to work things out.

And it’s especially painful and difficult when the breakup is HIS idea, not yours.

I like this program which has a proven step by step plan that is used to help thousands of women and can help you win your ex-back.

You have to take action because the longer you wait the greater the chance that he might forget you, as the great memories of the two of you together start fading away in his mind.

One aspect about male psychology is that the longer you are apart the more likely the fond memories will fade and he’ll never come back.

The sooner you begin learning to put together a life changing plan the sooner he’ll be back in your arms!

I know firsthand that breakups are one of the most emotionally difficult and painful situations you can go through, that’s why I hope you take good care your over-all well-being and happiness.